Specific praise is good praise - The Chief Happiness Officer Blog

Specific praise is good praise - The Chief Happiness Officer Blog About a month ago, I blogged about an article examining praise in a major Danish newspaper in which Im quoted as being all in favor of praise. Katrine Dahl who is currently writing her phd thesis on collaborative writing processes sent me an email saying: And I am quoted in that same article for saying something to the effect that general and superficial praise can be pointless or at its worst negative. Praise should be specific and concrete (as should criticism!). Dont say: I love your website. Do say: I love the way you create a friendly community on your website by actually reading and commenting so sincerely on the comments made by your readers. You pay attention to detail. You listen to their stories and connect them with your ideas. You try to give useful advice. You are not afraid of being open about your flaws. I specifically noticed the way you replied to Ns comment, that was Giving specific praise is extremely difficult. Paying attention, analyzing, reflecting is necessary. We need to get engaged, to get into stuff, to care. Unlike sending off non-commital superlatives in all directions, which is pretty easy, but not particularly useful in any other terms than making the receiver feeling momentarily good about herself (which is a very good thing, I am totally with you on that). The point is, that in order to learn from praise, so that we can do more of what it was that we did well, we need to know specifically what it was. This dimension of praise is often overlooked. It shouldnt be. The psychological dimension and the learning dimension of praise can so easily go hand in hand. In fact, I am convinced that the psychological benefits of praise are greater if that praise is given in a specific way. I could not agree more praise needs to be specific to be valuable. Thank you Katrine for adding to the topic in such a positive, interesting and useful way :o) Thanks for visiting my blog. If you're new here, you should check out this list of my 10 most popular articles. And if you want more great tips and ideas you should check out our newsletter about happiness at work. It's great and it's free :-)Share this:LinkedInFacebookTwitterRedditPinterest Related